Every Relationship Imposes some Restrains

Tying a goat to a column through a rope restricts the goat's movement and dictates how far she may go from the column. In this case, the goat is related to the column with the rope working as a relationship. Like this, every relationship dictates how far the related persons may go with respect to each other. Crossing this limit by any of them makes the relationship infeasible.

These restrains may be disciplinary making the related persons more disciplined, or disruptive making a person sick of the relationship.Most marital relationships are of disciplinary type, while a relationship created of a kidnapping is disruptive, but still is a relationship between te kidnapper and the kidnapped. Thus relationships are not only positive, these may be of negative type also.

In reference to a positive relationship, difference between freedom and liberty has to be understood. A freedom knows no restrains and so is fatal to a relationship, while liberty contains an element of discipline and so is essential for sustenance of the relationship. Liberty does no harm to the related persons but improve their sociability and other human attributes. Further, control on behavior of a related person must be affected by the person himself/herself out of his/her own will and not by anybody else. Otherwise, the controlled person feels in a prison of relationship and sooner or later flies away from the relationship, or, as the worst case, keeps the relationship as an unwanted burden on himself/herself.

As said above, even enmity is a natural relationship and there is nothing wrong in it. One need not to have any feeling of guilt in having enmity with some one. After all, human differences are natural and products of individual evolutions. All human beings are not evolved equally and in the same way. In races, where violence and cruelty are preached socially from the very childhood, evolution takes an altogether different route as compared to other societies in which violence and cruelty are considered insensible and undesirable. There can be no permanent positive relationship between persons of such differing communities.