Gaze is key to Initiate and Maintain a Relationship

The most important organ involved in a relationship are eyes of the persons. These not only invite the other party to the relationship but also initiate and maintain the relationship on a sound footing through their soundless expressions. Eyes express how much a person is passionate about the relationship and nobody can hide his/her reality from these expressions. 

Roots of visual expressions go deep to one's mind, often referred to heart, and dig equally deep in the other's mind. not only in love, gaze is important in all social contacts. A person is not trusted if he/she speaks without directing his/her gaze towards eyes of the other person. Mutual trust starts with meeting of the eyes of the persons. 

This puts a big question mark on distance relationships through social media wherein no direct confrontation of eyes is possible. This deficiency makes the relationship shallow unless it is compensated for through sincere hearty messages to each other and a future meeting of eyes is anticipated. Profile pictures of the two involved in a social networking work as the first and probably the last eye contact of the persons, so play vital role in such a relationship. Even in these pictures, eyes of the persons play the most significant role. The best of the pictures of this type are those which focus on eyes of the person.


In my experience of about 3 years on social media, I am of the opinion that persons using pictures other than their real face picture risk being considered untrustworthy by others. I still don't understand the psychology of hiding one's face and real name from others and trying to network socially. To me, this seems just impossible to build mutual trust for a relationship. Any tips from readers about their own experiences and impressions in this respect are welcome. 

Eyes are not only just another organ of a person, these are the most vital channel to one's mind for information on the external world. For others, these mean what is in your mind at that instant. A gaze may be feeble, sharp or somewhere in-between. It is the first direct measure of te person's intentions and make the first impression on the other person. First impression may always not be the last impression, but it matters a lot until the last moments. 

Eyes express sorrow and also smile a lot. In such expressions, their shape varies like that of lips of the person. Eyes get deeply involved in one's thought processing and carry depth as the thinking goes deeper. Thinking is an internal process which can not be viewed by others except through eyes of the person. No external meeting of eyes is necessary to express the ongoing process in the subject's mind.