Purpose is Essential for a Relationship

Like any other human endeavor, a relationship has to have a purpose for endurance. I had some online friends with whom I used to exchange messages almost on daily basis at one time, with lessening of frequency gradually and reaching zero now. I tried to find out the reason behind, and have come to conclude that the relationship ended because there was no purpose behind for any side. It was just like a casual hello.

Every relationship is a matter of give and take for both sides which make the purpose of the relationship. Some times, it may appear that a related persons have no purpose behind their relationship, but what is not visible are their expectations from each other. It may even be from one side and the other may be drawn to relationship for that purpose. In such a relationship, once a realization of expectation remaining unfulfilled, the relationship breaks down.

Except for business relationships, exchanges of love and affection are the most common purposes of relationships. These exchanges make the subjects attached to each other and these attachments become their weaknesses. The relationship is maintained to compensate for these weaknesses of each other. A relationship is not limited to friendliness only, even an enmity is also a relationship wherein revenges are the purpose of the relationship.

A relationship may look to be unilateral, just like love of a child to her doll. the doll seems to have no purpose but in reality, its need is care of the child. It remains unexpressed by the doll, but once the child fails to provide the expected care, the relationship goes on fading and ultimately gets terminated. Long back, I read somewhere about a sect preaching not to have attachment with anything and the children were instructed to throw their dolls and toys into fire to train their minds for non-attachment. Children did that for obedience and fear of elders but with tearful eyes. Preachers of Hinduism also ask for non-attachment but the preachers themselves are found to be deeply attached to their name, fame and other possessions. Such fakeness may be visible in some relationships also which comes to light sooner or later.