Love

A sensuous relationship between two of opposite genders is called love. It is te most powerful bond with sex-play between the two as its essential part. Therefore, sexual compatibility and mutual satisfaction of the two are necessary conditions of a successful love relationship.

Although a loving relationship may begin with meeting of minds, it often begins with sexual affinity, which is instinctive in all creatures.. Basic purpose of instinctive sex is procreation for which sex-play is just a matter of touch and go, as can be seen in many animal species who do it just for procreation only. In such cases sex-play is just a science devoid of art.

Humans have taken it to a much farther extent wherein procreation remains just a small fraction of the whole sexual life. For this reason, human societies have made a provision of marriage between the love partners to enable them to have unhindered and legalized relationship. It has become an art of the highest grade. Even, intercourse becomes its small component at the end. Each session begins with toches to kisses and to a whole variety of activities.

Since, sex-play is an age-based activity, a loving relationship evolves in persons of nearly the same age, however, there may be some exceptions to it. Love instinct bites at adolescence but it gets matured at the age of about 25 when the two bodies get fully developed.

Apart from sex, love has another important dimension of care for each other. A little trouble with one appears as a crisis for the other. This is the real measure of depth of a loving relationship. This becomes more predominant as the two partners proceed on age. Sex is not a life-long activity but mutual care is life-long making it more important than even sex. It works as a binding mortar in the relationship.

A loving relationship is essential for keeping good health, particularly that of the heart. So, a loving relationship is often considered as a subject matter of the two hearts. Physically, health of the heart, and soundness of a sex-play are closely linked. In abstract terms, a loving relationship is a matter of minds and their psychological preparedness. For tis reason, loving relationships developed in later years of life prove long-lasting while those of adolescence get fade away often soon. Eyes are its the first and the foremost tools.

Happiness : How it Comes

Often persons chase money to get happiness. They forget that a person may get what he/she chases. So for being happy, chase happiness instead of chasing money. Chasing money is a lust and so it gets you more of lust, unending lust. Unfulfilment of a lust is misery, so chasing money may get you money with miseries.

My researches on happiness reveal five basic inputs to happiness :

• Fulfilment of Basic Needs,
• Health,
  
• Getting Pleasures,
• Achieving a purpose,
• Involving in Relationships.

A needy person can never be happy - this is a basic fact. Here it is noteworthy that a lust is not a need. Need is what you basically need to respectful survival - principally the food, the clothes and the home. Here one point comes to my mind - I live in a village where I pay for electricity but don't get it. Is it my lust or a need ? Firstly, electricity is a part of a home and secondly, it is needed to grow vegetables in the home. So it is my need, not the lust. Without getting it, my food and home are incomplete. So I can't be happy unless I get it. For fulfilling your basic needs, you need some money or rather some source of regular income.
Health is wealth - there is no doubt about it. For being healthy you need not be rich. Very simple food and lifestyle may make you healthy and so add to your happiness. For being healthy, you have to be conscious about it. Use your mind's functionality to keep your body hale and healthy through practising Vipassna.
Pleasure is different from happiness in the sense that pleasure is timely while happiness is timeless. For example, you see a beautiful flower, you get pleased but not happy. Even momentary pleasures add to our happiness. So be close to beautiful things to get pleasures. Even nice words from a distant friend gives you pleasure.
A purpose adds meaning to life. To have a purpose is a pleasure in itself, and its fulfilment makes you happy. So, every moment of your existence must be purposeful, or in other words, you must always have some purpose in your mind.

Relationships are a principle source of happiness. But be careful, you can't have good relationships with everybody, you have to look for like-minded persons. For a happy relationship, choose carefully and then trust and be trusted. Love with opposite gender person is the most important of relationships. If your love-mate is beautiful in your eyes, it is a constant source of pleasures and hence the happiness. A relationship grows by appreciation and trust.
Here I finish and hope you to be happy now onwards if not till now. Seek it and you will surely get it.

Relationships of Youths

By the time, a child steps into youth-hood his exposure to the world gets expanded a lot and he/she starts considering himself/herself as grown up to decide on his/her own in matters of relationships. He/she is no more an adolescent curious to know everything and fearful of touching the unknown. Thus, he/she has a stint of self-confidence and self-respect. He/she does not look for guidance but is willing to provide it to the youngsters. At this age, he/she is eager to mix up with all age groups - youngsters to provide guidance and elders to be their accompaniment.
Youthness is a critical period in one's life for two reasons - for career advancements and for loving relationships. Fears and shyness of adolescent relationships are gone at this age and they get mentally prepared for loving relationships with opposite gender of their age-group. Simultaneously, some youths become aware of their career advancement which prevents them from going in for unbridled relationships to save time and other resources. This divides the youths in two broad categories - career-oriented and the free-birds. It depends on the local social environment what percentage of youth will go a category. Talking about India, mostly youths from government officials' families are career-oriented and the rest are so much frustrated in the social environment that they don't hope to achieve anything even if they try. These youths of second category lack guidance also and ultimately add to the useless crowd of India.
Because of the fact what percentage makes a useless crowd of youths, the relationship scenario also get affected. The career-oriented youths have fewer but mostly dedicated friends while the rest have a lot many friends but of drifting type and seekers of promoting their own interests through hit and trial friendships.
Maximum number of sex-based male-female relationships develop in this age group because of their upcoming desires for sex.
Sexual relationships of youths most often demolish career advancement prospects but sometimes become challenges or inspirations for career building. In both cases, the youths get isolated from the elders who forgetting their own days, preach morality and restrains in sexual relationships. This is often termed as 'generation gap' but is not truly so. The gap is due to the fact that the youths need sexual relationships while the elders want hem to have restrains.

Time, Space and Power Management

Every individual is a part of Nature, hence natural laws are applicable on him/her. So to find out how to manage oneself optimally, we can take inspiration from the Nature. The Nature has 3 fundamental elements - time, space and energy and manages itself through management of these three elements in consonance. So human management is also management of time, space and power. The most wonderful of all these three elements is that these are cyclic ie end in one direction is the beginning in the other direction. This makes the management a convenient cyclic activity.

Management of Time

Basic thing about time management is listing the jobs to be done, allotting relative priorities to them and then pursuing them one at a time. Since jobs are of various types, their priorities are set accordingly giving the topmost priority to the job which is directly linked to your goal of life, or its prerequisites.

Persons often do easier things first leaving the harder for a later execution. This way is that of an escapist and is not recommended. If you have to do a job, you are to face its complications sooner or later, so why to avoid it and keep it pending. Remember, accomplishing a difficult job makes you more self-confident making easier jobs much easier to do.

Another categorization of jobs is on the basis of their impacts - having long-term impacts and having shorter-term impacts. Often short-term impact jobs find priority, so much so that long-term impact jobs get ignored. This is dangerous for the overall meeting the objectives of life. Since, many short-term impact jobs are unavoidable, these must be sandwiched with the long-term impact jobs in the priority setting.

Priority setting also needs periodic reviews and updates which need be done at the beginning of, say, a day, a week, a month and/or a year.

Management of Space

Organization of a work place cuts wastage of time adding efficiency to performance and most importantly adds pleasure to working. Although management of space may not be an objective of life and so may be accorded a lower priority, but it must be remembered that management of space is a prerequisite of management of time and hence deserves topmost priority. Once, it is tactically accomplished, its further management becomes automatic and even unnoticeably easier. It becomes a matter of habit and performed sub-consciously.

Management of Power

The Universe and every individual has a limited amount of power always getting converted from one form to another, therefore need tactical management. The most important tip on power management for an individual is that he/she should never be exhausted of it. For this, one’s power must be replenished at regular intervals through rest and nutrition. Without this one may feel stressed and become less efficient in performance.

Notice here, I have not used the term ‘energy’ as is often considered basic, for the simple logic of energy being accumulated power over a time, therefore is composed of two elements - power and time, and hence is not fundamental.

The last and the most important aspect of managing the self is that all these three - time, space and power managements should not be treated in isolation with each other but as components of a composite self-management.

Communication through Body Language

Nearly 50 percent of human communications are through body language while in animals this percentage seems to be even much higher. An important attribute of body language is that it is intuitive and need not be learned except through day-to-day experiences. Even a new-born baby understands the expression of love by his/her elders without any training or experience.
Most often used organs in body language are head, eyes, lips, face, hands, arms, shoulders, toes, etc. each of which is an optimum tool for representing some specific type of communication. To make the communication more powerful, more than one organs are used for expressions. Here is the list -
Organ Communication
Head : Yes, No
Eyes : Attraction, Flirt, Anger, Contemplation
Lips : Love, Desire
Face : Happiness, Love, Hate, Anger
Hands : Call, Victory, Alert
Touch : Love, Affection
Arms : Stop, Alert
Shoulders : I don't know
Toes : Revenge

Communicating yes or no through shaking of head is often used by humans but its practice is not the same at all places. At some, shaking head sideways often indicates a 'no' but at some places, it is indicative of a 'yes'. Similarly, shaking head vertically is often used for a 'yes' but not at all places.
The most sensitive and instinctive feeling in all creatures is that of loving and being loved. Attraction is the first step of love for which there is no tool better and faster than the eyes for communicating it.
Apart from these inter-personal communication signals, body language also indicates general tendencies of a person. Keep on moving body parts while sitting without any apparent reason indicates restlessness of the person's mind, and particularly in women, it indicates desire for getting noticed.
Lips are often used to communicate a desire for physical love. Pressing the lower lip in between one's teeth indicates that the person is eager for an physical intimacy. Facial expressions also make use of lips to express happiness, anguish, love, affection etc.
Hands and arms are often used for calling somebody at a distance, and raising an alert not only against dangers but also of joys. Shrugging the shoulders along with facial expressions is a standard expression of amazement.