A sex-play is wholesome only when both the mates reach the state of orgasm at the same time. Reaching orgasm by oneself and leaving the partner wanting more is a sin. Here are some tips for a wholesome sex-play.
No Disturbance
Any feeling of a third person being close-by sets the mood off of the two for a sex-play. So, make sure that the two are fully on their own without any disturbance for at least the next two hours.
Optimum temperature
Optimum temperature for the start of the play is about 14 degree Celsius, but it is for beginning only. Later, with the rise in temperatures of the two bodies being close and rubbing with each other, outer temperature hardly matters. Even in hot summers, when temperature soars to about 40 degree Celsius, two bodies dipped in sweat become more lusty and attractive, the seat working as a lubricant.
Readiness
A wholesome sex-play takes about 2 hours and much more for a repeat performance, which proves to be more enjoying. Sex-play need leisurely attitude and willingness of the two. For willingness, there need be no invitation in words from to the other. Smiling faces of the two and some indirect hints of some past instances of a good sex-play from one supported by the other are good indications of willingness of the two. If one is in mood and the other is not, it is better to be closer and caressing the not-so-willing partner, along with a little bit of undressing.
No woman of good taste would ever like to be naked and uncovered. So, while undressing take care of covering the two bodies with a fine sheet of cloth. This is relevant in the beginning only while in later stages, it matters little. A cushioned flat bed works the best for the play.
Kissing
Every person has some or the other body-part which is the most sensitive to sexual arousal. For women, kissing all around the neck arouses her the most. To show love to a woman, start with a kiss on the forehead, then on the eyes and then move to the lips to be followed by sucking the breasts and going deep into the vagina with the tongue. Lips are not the only parts used in kissing, tongue also works well in sync with the lips, particularly inside the mouth and the vagina. Kissing is a must for full arousal of the two bodies. In this game, man plays the active role.
Posture
Although many postures are possible for copulating, but lying with man over the woman is the best and the most comfortable for the two. Here some finer points are worth mentioning. Don't lift the legs of the woman but only widen them apart and after insertion, take the female legs in between the male legs pressing them together. This will tighten the grip of vaginal sheath for the most pleasure-full moments.
The Play
Again, don't be in a hurry but move slowly. The beginning must be a slow reciprocation which will automatically be sped up near the climax. It is also recommended to slow down the speed in between to increase the duration of the play. While reciprocating, take care not to take out the full organ but move up to the tip.
Reaching the maximum possible depth with hard strokes is preferred by women of good taste. This may require an occasional widening the woman's legs but never lift them up, if you love the woman and the play.
A very special recommendation is to move the organ circularly rubbing hard at the walls of the sheath with a very deep dig inside. This is the most wanted thing by women but little practised by men. Also remember that the repeat performance after some rest is always better for healthy couples.
The Orgasm and Thereafter
Any one may feel being close to the orgasm. To make the partner ready for it, it should be indicated with words such as 'come' and then try to prevent it for some moments to synchronize it with that of the partner. This is a matter of some practice. Even at this point, don't take out the organ but let the two saps be thoroughly mixed up and soaked by the organs. Lying still close to each other in this state is not only enjoyable but also good for health of the two. Let the ejection be on its own which may take some 15-20 minutes. Always end the play with a kiss and words like 'You are wonderful, thank you'.