Change Yourself

Basically, everyone of us is born and brought up in a unique way and that is the design of nature. Keeping this natural uniqueness is a source of pleasure for every one of us. This uniqueness is genetic and must be fulfilling.

Every one of us is made up of a complex set of characteristics that define who one is. Thus a personality can be said to consist of one's thoughts, feelings, emotions, attitudes and behaviours. Our personality may be reflected in the goals we set for ourselves.

But there are corruptions also possible after we enter the world which prove harmful to our personalities. For example, smoking is injurious to health and happinessnot only for the individual but also for the family and society of the smoker. This spreads like an infection from one person to another and is a corruption of mind, body and the whole personality. Like this, there are oter corruptions of body and mind.

Mental corruptions are more dangerous than physical corruptions because these form convictions of the person and resist any change in te mental make-up of the person. Misleading concepts such as those of religions and spirituality, on becoming convictions, corrupt the personality of the person and such corruptions resist any change very vigorously. Superiority and inferiority complexes of a person are such corruptions of the mind which are difficult to change but still possible.. 

here is a warning for such a change. Making changes in one's personality to suit a social norm or tradition, such as conformism, may prove counter-productive, because all social norms are not necessarily healthy from humanism point of view which is the ultimate test of goodness. So, before you decide to make a change, check it whether it is humanistic or not, or in other words, whether it is going to make you a better human-being. A wrong decision in this regard may lead to corrupting your personality. Mere succeeding under given circumstances is no criterion of bettering a personality. The important criteria are improving happiness of the self and the society in general. A mere success at te cost of others does not fit these criteria. Happiness of all includes real success in itself.     

When a personality gets corrupted, it may need a change to be pure again. A corruption enters a personality and becomes a habit. So, a change in personality means a change in a habit of the person. This change does not harm your uniqueness but boosts it. Changes in personality are made up through training the mind for the change.

The first step for a change is the acceptance of a need to change. Although, this begins with personal conviction, it is best supported by its declaration amongst some friends or family members. This requires some courage, and this courage is a necessity for the proposed change.

The next step for te change is repetition of wish to change again and again before friends or family members. This inculcates the change in the personality through conscious to sub-conscious level.of the mind which also makes a readjustment in personal convictions.