How to Develop Intimacy

During my adolescence, I got attracted to a girl in my neighborhood which is considered a taboo in Indian society.Since, the love did not fructify, it remained an unbearable tension for me for 20 years, until I met the then woman and her husband in a cozy atmosphere. For this, I had to develop an intimate friendship with the husband. The whole exercise proved to be a lesson in developing intimacy.

Gaze

For developing an intimacy what matters most is mutual interest coupled with trustworthiness. We try to judge mutual trustworthiness firstly through gazes. If a companion is found avoiding directly looking in to one's eyes, he/she is surely hiding something and is not directly trusted. Thus, eyes are windows to one's intentions. If you want to be intimate of somebody, share your gazes with minds and hearts fully open to each other.

Touches
Shaking hands formally may not matter much but keeping hand in hand for a considerable period helps in feeling feelings of each other. Touches get to emotional depths when they are through softer parts of the body. So, kiss is a universally recognized process of developing intimacy.

Equality
Whatever be the age difference of the two, a surrender or a domination by one over the other surely proves injurious to intimacy, however there may develop other types of relationships. When two meet with a friendly consideration to each other, ten only the intimacy enters the relationship.

Humor
Another significant factor of intimacy is amusement of each other in the company for which occasional sparks of humor are essential. When one is humorous, the other must appreciate it. In every relationship in practical life, highs and lows are faced every now then, the lows blocking lines of communication. Humor surely and easily breaks such an impasse.   

For missing physical dimension of intimacy, online relationships hardly develop in to an intimacy.