Importance of Looks

When I was on faculty of at an Engineering, I had very long beard, shining white long hairs on my head and I used to wear only whites. I think that gave me a look of a person of ancient times. I was new at the college and was very conservative in developing close contacts with others. One day, a girl student of my class met me in the college corridor, told me her problem of mental distraction from studies and started sobbing. I promised her all my help. The relationship soon changed from teacher-student to a father-daughter type. The incident of the girl seeing me in the corridor is a lesson in human psychology of trust through looks. My looks made me trustworthy to her.

Every relationship has a purpose - viz. business, guidance, friendship, etc, which is best served through mutual trustworthiness. Through learning from our society, every one of us develop some notions about different looks for trustworthiness for different purposes. Even such notions differ from person to person. These notions, though, are not rigidly followed and keep on changing, still become significant for impression at the first sight. Whenever we see a person complying to our notion for some purpose, we get attracted and tend to develop a relationship of that particular type.

Just like some looks are considered attractive by a person, some other looks may have  repelling influences on the person at the first sight. In my opinion, which stands amendable, the are no preconceived notions for repelling looks but take form at the particular instant of the first sight.

A look bear significance in only initializing a contact, later relationship depends on many other factors such as voice, smiles, intellect, etiquette, etc. So, it is not advisable to judge a person by looks only. These may be deceiving. Many persons take undue advantage of their generally good looks to serve their vested interests.