Live for Yourself

Most of us do little for our own satisfaction as compared to what we do for impressing others about our worth. In many efforts of such impressions, we fake ourselves as some one we are not, and, in the process, we hide ourselves.

There was a time when people were more innocent than they are today and some clever persons were able to fool them with their fake images. Situation is greatly changed now. When we fake ourselves, most of the persons understand the fakeness but say nothing adverse about it just because they don't want to displease us without a sound reason. this is because the people in the world today have become diplomats to a great extent. This clearly means that through our fake projections, we gain nothing but lose our precious credibility in the society around us.

The best strategy is to live according to our own convictions and project our real selves to others through our postures, words and deeds. Here, it is worthwhile to understand difference between  projection and impression. A projection, also termed as expression, could only be intended by a person without any surety of a compatible influence on others. An impression is what others perceive of us through our postures, words and deeds. It is beyond any body's control. So, a fake projection is of little value except for fools.

Every fake projection takes more of energies and resources of the person than those taken by a real projection. Indeed, a real projection is no projection and hence needs no resources. One has just be his/her real self without intending any projection. Secondly, a real projection is always more impressive than a fake projection. So, every fake projection is uneconomical on physical and psychological scales. 

In-spite of the above negative aspects of fake projections, most of the persons do that, why? Just because they themselves have no good impressions of themselves. In other words, a person suffering from inferiority complex tries a fake projection of him/herself which proves to be a bad strategy.

Right Way of Impressing
every one has some strong points in his/her personality along with having some weaknesses. The person him/herself knows about these much better than any other person can do that. However, a psychologist may help in understanding the strengths and weaknesses of the self. For a nice and successful projection, one has to understand these about him/herself and then concentrate on the strengths in postures, words and deeds without even bothering about a projection. A real-self need no effort for projection but impresses others automatically.        

So, just concentrate on your strong points and be a star in your society. It is just living for yourself what you are made for.