Capability Absorbs All Blames

'Ramayan' an Hindi epic by Goswami Tulsidas says, "samarath ko naheen dosh gusaain (समरथ को नहीं दोष गुसाईं)", which is usually translated as 'the strong can not be blamed' with which I don't agree. Instead, my view is that 'capable persons do not commit mistakes' which, in other words means ' capability absorbs all apparent faults of a person'.

Once, a very close friend of mine saw me exiting from the place of a prostitute, and I also saw him passing that way. But none of us tried to say a hello for our different reasons. Later, the friend told me that he saw me at a place unexpected of me. I frankly told him, "You saw me exiting from house of a prostitute, where I had been for two hours and enjoyed sex with her." He was shocked at this reply of mine and inquired from me what made me to go there. I told him that I had gone to her study psyche of a prostitute. We discussed a lot of things including their fulfilling a need of the society and compulsions under which girls are drawn to this profession. Then she wanted to display her art of sex play to me and I enjoyed sex with her. And most surprisingly, she refused to accept any money in exchange. This was my new lesson in womanhood, society and prostitution.

Objective of writing the above episode here is that when a person takes up some special responsibility on him/herself, he/she is required to do many unusual things some of which may look immoral to other persons and they tend to blame the person for the immorality. Even then the passion of the performer takes him/her to a path not liked by many in the society. For this reason only, Tulsidas wrote the above words in Ramayan.

Is there a way that the society understand the person and does not blame him for what he/she does under compulsions of his/her duties to the society. I think 'no'. The society is always heterogeneous and all shall never understand the person loaded with special responsibilities. That is what Socrates was poisoned for, Ram was blamed for punishing his innocent wife. 

Since the society as a whole has no responsibility and capability of understanding compulsions of a person loaded with special responsibilities, it is the person him/herself has to bear every blame on him/herself and keep on doing what he/she thinks fit for the responsibilities on him/her.

What is compelling me to write on this topic is a current demand on me from a widow and childless lady to help her to get possession on her rightful assets in the village which her family members are denying to her. My being lonely and she being lonely as well as beautiful, my involvement in helping her may provide a handle to opponents of her to put blames on me. But I am constrained to help her to maximum possible extent in return to her faith in my capability of helping her.