Man- Woman Compatibility

Above all, woman is the embodiment of beauty and love, and this includes every attribute that is good for humanity. Conversely, the manhood represents strength and intellect. Thus, both jointly include love and strength necessary for continuity of life in the universe.  

All arts on earth are derived from love and beauty, therefore a woman is basically an artist. Opposed to it, sciences are derived from intellect and so are fortresses of manhood. Statism is another attribute of womanhood providing the women with emotional stability, necessary for a family life. Thus, a woman makes the home for manhood without which the manhood remains baseless. Thus, the two are related like a railway station and a train.

Womanhood has four stages of evolution during a life time - daughter, sister, wife and finally mother. At all these stages, she remains attached to manhood providing him the spirit of love and beauty. In return, the man are to provide her care and protection. A woman is the delicacy of fruit of humanity while the man is its nutrition. This means that the attribute of womanhood is explicit while the manhood is implicit.

Woman is to provide solace to a man with her most powerful weapon of smiling words, also the foundation-stone of a man-woman relationship. Woman is the sensitivity needing touches by man while the man is sensibility giving value to expressions of the woman. This makes women naturally more expressive than men while the men have higher understandability. 



Scientifically speaking, no woman is an absolute woman and likewise, no man is an absolute man. Individuals of both the genders have attributes of the opposite gender in varied degrees. So any body in the form of a woman may not be a woman in true sense, like a man may not have desired attributes expected of him. This is the basic cause of irritants in a man-woman married life. The best relationship is maintained when the man is more like a man and her woman is close to be an absolute woman.

Capability : Your Door to Possibilities

This morning, I, along with a friend of mine, visited a friend of the friend in his native village of which he is the democratically elected Premier. This Premier is hardly educated, fond of drinking and accustomed all the traditional corrupt practices of Indian governance and the society. As premier, he is manipulating a lot of public funds which he is consuming in liquors for himself and his close associates. In return, his young son has also become a drunkard.

My friend told the Premier that I was a candidate of Premiership for my village in the forthcoming Panchayat elections in U.P. state of India. Additionally, he was informed that I belong to a community having only one family in the village, am dead honest but very capable in handling public affairs fairly, and that I shall be in the fray without spending any money on distribution of liquor bottles to voters.

The said Premier gave his forecast - I shall get defeated in the election for two reasons : for belonging to a minority and for not distributing liquor bottles to voters. Secondly, if I get elected, I shall fail miserably in handling the corrupt government machinery for my honesty. Looking at the present conditions all around in India, his forecasts seems to be true. But there are other possibilities also which our friend fails to visualize for his very limited capabilities.

Indeed, tremendous and unforeseen possibilities always exist all around us but these could be visualized through capabilities only. A person suffering from short-sightedness can't see beyond a few centimeters from his eyes, while another person with normal vision, can see many decameters away from his position. But a person with a telescope supporting his eyes can see many kilometers away from himself. This proves that every one of us knows a possibility entirely dependent on his capability. Thus, our capability is the door of our seeing a possibility.

Although, everything may not be possible at a certain time, experiences of our routine lives prove to us that an impossibility exists for the existence of an incapability. As such, we may not create a possibility out of an impossibility but certainly we can acquire a capability to do that.

When Nepoleon said that word 'impossible' is found in the dictionary of fools, his fools are incapable persons in the subject field. Nobody is born with all the capabilities and with all the possibilities. Both of these are always built gradually over their lifetimes by the individuals with support from their social circumstances. And most importantly, any body can acquire capabilities to make things possible through dedication and intellect-supported hard work.

People fail in their endeavors for lack of their capability in the field of endeavor. Therefore, for succeeding in an endeavor, one is needed to first open the door to the possibility through acquiring the desired capability. For this reason 'first deserve then desire' is the fundamental principle of success.

Meaning and Path of Happiness

Happiness is doing what we care about most, thus increasing our satisfaction and meaning in life. But most of us fail to get this happiness and remain busy in other things, like acquiring more of wealth. These other things are merely in search of happiness but far from happiness. Even in America, people spend merely 20 percent of their time in doing what they love to do like talking with close friends, bonding with loved ones, creating, playing, etc. In India, the situation is worse as 95 percent of people have no time for pursuing these activities. What we remain busy in are activities we are forced on us by circumstances and hate to do such as commuting, standing in queues at ration shops, post office, bank counters, etc. and fixing broken appliances.

Technological advancements, social progress, economic prosperity, etc. which we got on our path for happiness fail to take us there in-spite of our expectations and the best intentions. These merely take us to success, intelligence, knowledge, maturity, wisdom, relationships, wealth and meaning in life. But happiness is much more and different from these.  

Happiness lies in getting engaged in something with full interest and concentration, and this comes when we invoke our curiosity in the matter. Curiosity is desire to know more, a state of active and genuine interest. Although curiosity in an instinctive attribute, it could further be cultivated, nurtured and developed intuitively. This reliable key of happiness is largely overlooked by most of us. As a result, we keep on doing things without any genuine interest in them which, in turn, results in our bad performances.    


We are at our best when we have a genuine interest in what we do, and this comes from being curious about the thing and result of our performance. A good workmanship is not only a thing of great pleasure to the performer but also inspiring to others in contact. Thus, happiness spreads like a viral disease in the society through curiosity.

Capability Absorbs All Blames

'Ramayan' an Hindi epic by Goswami Tulsidas says, "samarath ko naheen dosh gusaain (समरथ को नहीं दोष गुसाईं)", which is usually translated as 'the strong can not be blamed' with which I don't agree. Instead, my view is that 'capable persons do not commit mistakes' which, in other words means ' capability absorbs all apparent faults of a person'.

Once, a very close friend of mine saw me exiting from the place of a prostitute, and I also saw him passing that way. But none of us tried to say a hello for our different reasons. Later, the friend told me that he saw me at a place unexpected of me. I frankly told him, "You saw me exiting from house of a prostitute, where I had been for two hours and enjoyed sex with her." He was shocked at this reply of mine and inquired from me what made me to go there. I told him that I had gone to her study psyche of a prostitute. We discussed a lot of things including their fulfilling a need of the society and compulsions under which girls are drawn to this profession. Then she wanted to display her art of sex play to me and I enjoyed sex with her. And most surprisingly, she refused to accept any money in exchange. This was my new lesson in womanhood, society and prostitution.

Objective of writing the above episode here is that when a person takes up some special responsibility on him/herself, he/she is required to do many unusual things some of which may look immoral to other persons and they tend to blame the person for the immorality. Even then the passion of the performer takes him/her to a path not liked by many in the society. For this reason only, Tulsidas wrote the above words in Ramayan.

Is there a way that the society understand the person and does not blame him for what he/she does under compulsions of his/her duties to the society. I think 'no'. The society is always heterogeneous and all shall never understand the person loaded with special responsibilities. That is what Socrates was poisoned for, Ram was blamed for punishing his innocent wife. 

Since the society as a whole has no responsibility and capability of understanding compulsions of a person loaded with special responsibilities, it is the person him/herself has to bear every blame on him/herself and keep on doing what he/she thinks fit for the responsibilities on him/her.

What is compelling me to write on this topic is a current demand on me from a widow and childless lady to help her to get possession on her rightful assets in the village which her family members are denying to her. My being lonely and she being lonely as well as beautiful, my involvement in helping her may provide a handle to opponents of her to put blames on me. But I am constrained to help her to maximum possible extent in return to her faith in my capability of helping her.