Beauty and Sexuality

All beautiful persons are not sexy, most of the sexy persons look attractive, and all beautiful persons are attractive, but all sexy persons are not beautiful. Thus, beauty and attractiveness are the same, the difference being beauty is an objective trait while attractiveness is subjective. This is because, beauty does not attract but others get attracted to beauty. For the same reason, all persons don’t get attracted to sexuality of a person. So, there are only two distinct attributes of a female personality – beauty and sexuality. This divides the whole female population in three categories – beautiful only, sexy only, and both beautiful and sexy. In terms of mathematical set theory, this could be represented as shown in the picture below.

Principal difference between beauty and sexuality is that the latter arouses a feeling of lust for enjoying the sex-play, while the beauty attracts but arouses no lusty feelings. Physical shape, skin glow and a layer of flesh on the body are the three different features of a woman that influence her beauty and sexuality. No one appreciates sexuality of his sister and gets blinded for it naturally. Similarly, a man may appreciate sexuality of his wife or beloved but does not like if somebody else appreciates the same trait of the wife/beloved. All these considerations make sex-appeal a subjective consideration. 

Often youths are more sex-crazy than the senior persons, so they tend to look every beautiful woman as a sex-object, so seldom differentiate between beautiful and sexy. For them, these two words mean the same thing. This hazes the already thin line between beauty and sex-appeal. Only the matured eyes differentiate between beauty and sex-appeal. 


Sexuality has two dimensions - sex-appeal and being sexy. Sex-appeal and being sexy are two different things. Even an ugly woman may prove to be extremely sexy in bed. My first encounter with sex took place in 1973 when I was 25 with a tribal woman in central India who was senior to me by 10 years and looked very wild. Our eyes met and mutually agreed and we had a very nice session. She was neither beautiful, nor was having sex-appeal but it was just a temporal need of two bodies. She proved to be extremely sexy and introduced me to the art of sex. Of course, I had studied the subject before and was conversant with science of it.



Sex-appeal may be enhanced through external adds-on also such as dress, hair-style, cosmetics and most importantly body language. But being sexy is the originality of the person which neither can be diminished nor enhanced by artificial means. But of course, it depends on the mood and the environment. 

Children - Source of Pleasures to All

No garden can have flowers more beautiful than playing children. Whatever way, whatever form, whatever mood they are, they are just lovable with the only condition that the beholder knows how to love a child. Of course, loving a child is the natural instinctive attribute of all forms of life. Humanity, particularly the males, are forgetting it in their lust for more of sex and wealth under their command. Otherwise, how can a man walk away after producing a child through his sexual intercourse with the mother - innumerable cases in the west. 

The greatest asset of children for which they are universally lovable is their innocence, with no malice against any.  Circumstances of life rob them off this precious asset and sometimes make them intolerable adults. Circumstances are of two types - natural and social. We have little control on the natural circumstances except a change of place. Even social circumstances are also made by many past to the present generation, and we as individuals can do very little about these, except doing something for the future generations. It works very slowly. 


Innocence of children generates curiosity in their minds for which they keep on probing their environment and asking innocent questions from their elders. The joy provided by such a quest and its simplest quench make the adult smile and that is worth a huge wealth in one's feet. Company of children works as a revitalizer to adults and it sooths their heartburns, which are so common in adult life. Further, it induces curiosity in the adult mind - a key to progress.  


Although eyes seem to be the most powerful probes in the adults, in children it is their touch sensing skin - always soft and silky from inside, irrespective of the external layer. Children learn maximum through touches which keep on diminishing with age. Touching a child gives enormous joy to everyone and the mothers are specially gifted with getting this joy.



Children have terrific energy and if not channelized properly gets misused. But the modern generation of children do not like interference even by their parents. So, the elders have a hidden role to play in channelizing their energies.